I Hired a Trainer? WTF.


My clients get faster results than me.

No joke, every time we do our monthly re-evaluation and measure their body fat, or look at their upward trend of their strength, endurance, and overall progression in their exercise program I get jealous. And, to be 100% honest feel a little embarrassed for myself.

Now, that’s admittedly a very egotistical way for me to think, however step 1 of losing the ego is admitting that I have one (and it’s huge)!

Possible reasons my clients get faster results:

  1. Not enough education?
  • Not a chance (there’s that ego again!). But seriously, I’ve been training for 10 years, I consume articles and research reviews like I inhale cupcakes, and I have a degree in exercise science.
  1. Is something psychologically wrong with me?
  • Absolutely. However, crazy people still make fast progress. Just look at how fast Metta World Peace got back into shape after gaining 20 pounds in the off season 5 years back.

The #1 reason my clients get faster results than me is because they have a trainer and I do not.

Well, at least this was the case 2 weeks ago.

There was no one to keep me accountable.

No one I had to check in with when I fell off my diet, skipped a week of training, or changed my goals half way thru reaching them.

Every high level athlete, most successful executives, and any historical icon has or had some sort of coach.

I want to be the best version of myself for other people: to inspire them to dream, grow, and persist.

That’s why I hired a trainer, and here’s 5 things I’ve learned thus far:

1. Humility is key to success

I mentioned my ego in the beginning of this write-up, and for good reason.  I’m listening to a great audiobook “Ego Is The Enemy,” written by the marketing prodigy behind the 2000’s era of success with American Apparel. The author Ryan Holiday talks about how the ego loves comfort, and when you get to a certain level of success, the ego takes over and you lose sight of what got you there in the first place. When you lose sight, you stop working as hard, learning, and staying persistent like you used to.

This was the situation I found myself in. “I don’t have to workout today, I already deadlifted 405 the other week for a triple.” Or, “I deserve to go over my calories today, I trained my clients 8 hours and worked from the computer another 4.”

Understanding that I couldn’t coach myself gave me a sense of humility. I feel closer to what got me here in the first place: hard work and persistence.

I know a lot of people who have refused to work with trainers because they “can do it on their own.” I’m sure you can eat right (whatever that means) and train properly. But to losing your ego and admitting your short-comings will get you to the next level of fitness and health.

2. Adherence trumps all other training variables

Week 1 of my new program was July 4th weekend. Then it was my new admin/sales assistant Henry’s birthday. Needless to say, I drank at both.

I get the “drunchies” (drunken munchies) and whenever I drink I just end up in the kitchen. Having to check in that Thursday with my coach, explaining why I hadn’t progressed at all, made me accountable for noticing and changing this.

Your training program, diet plan, and goals don’t mean crap if you can’t stick to them.

3. KISS principle (keep it simple, stupid)

When I got my training program, I expected some revolutionary workout program: new exercises I’ve never tried, set and reps schemes I’ve never used, exercises, rest periods, etc.

But what I got was the most basic exercises and programming. The only thing I noticed was the high amount of volume (sets x reps x weight) within the workout.

Nothing groundbreaking here, but already I can feel a difference in my physique and adherence to the program.

When we make something too complex, we get “paralysis by analysis” and “programming ADD.” Both will take us off track with our progress.

4. “Bet” on your health

I was listening to an audiobook the other month by internet marketing and motivational guru Gary Vaynerchuk (“#AskGaryVee”). In it, someone asks him whether he gambles.

He answered that he does indeed bet on sports. I found the reason WHY interesting.

He explained he used to mindlessly bet on sports without any real thought or research. However, when someone would bet him a sum of money that really made him uncomfortable, he thought more thoroughly and took a more educated bet.

He says betting on something that makes him study and understand the process better, instead of mindlessly going thru the motions.

For me, I’ve bought many workout programs, diet plans, and exercise equipment. But purchasing those never made me feel uncomfortable.

When I signed up for a year at a sum of money that meant something to me, it really made me think long and hard about how serious I want to take my health.

Obviously, if you’re in a financial situation that doesn’t allow you to spend money on fitness, or you aren’t ready to commit to your health, don’t do this.

But, if you’re ready to bet on yourself for success, this is a great strategy that worked well for me.

You can’t just throw money at health, it has to be a number that really means something to you.

5. Everyone needs a trainer

After reading “Ego is The Enemy,” and diving deeper into spirituality, I’m realizing how much my ego gets the best of me in all walks of life.

Getting uncomfortable and having a sense of humility helps rid you of your ego.

Keep educating, keep your head down and work hard, and focus on the process rather than the outcome.


In September, I’m running a “Back To School Jump Start.” It’s 4 weeks of training, diet coaching, accountability, and education (I’m bringing in a chiropractor, meditation coach, nutritionist, and life coach to hold a workshop at DC Fitness each week).

Hiring a coach is the best move I’ve done for my health since I started functional strength training, so if you or any of your friends/family are interested in stepping up your level of fitness, please let me know!

In Good Health,

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