Love & Fat Loss

“So your fiancée must be super active, right?”

“Do you guys workout together all the time?

“Is she a fitness nut like you?”


You would think the top 3 questions I get about my fiancée would be:

  1. How did you meet?
  1. What does she do for a living?
  1. Does she have a nice butt?


However, I’m a trainer, so my whole life revolves around fitness, right?

My fiancée Ali (not like Mohammed Ali, but pronounced “Al-Lee”), the smoking hot 5’4 blonde you see all over my social media, actually hates working out.

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And guess what? I’m totally cool with it.

Before meeting Ali, my whole life did revolve around fitness. I would wake up at 3:30am some weekdays to hit the gym before my morning clients, my only friends were my workout partners, and I would scoff at people that didn’t know how to deadlift. I was a total fitness snob.

What’s different now? I still eat super clean and workout, but now I actually have a life! And, a positive and healthy relationship with exercise and diet.

After all, what’s the point of looking good if you can’t even enjoy yourself?


Here are 5 things Ali taught me about fat loss that we should all incorporate into our life:

  1. Cuddle!

I used to lay there eyes wide open at 7am as Ali would wrap her arms and legs around me like an octopus.

“I have so much energy right now I should be working out. Please remove your leg from around my stomach and get your face out of my neck, you are killing my workout!” This was my thought process. Who has time for cuddling!?

Cuddling is actually very important for fat loss!

If you read my blog a couple weeks ago, you know that the hormone “oxytocin” is released during cuddling. This hormone, also called the “cuddle hormone,” is responsible for suppressing cortisol, which is the stress hormone responsible for weight gain.


  1. Be Happy With Yourself, But Want More

I know Ali would love me even if I were 350 pounds and ate Doritos off my stomach while watching football.

She once quoted Rue Paul, “If you can’t love yourself, how do you expect anyone else to?”

You can still want to reach goals, but you need to be comfortable and happy with yourself first.


  1. Get It In When You Can

Get your mind out of the gutter!

Because Ali works a million hours a week and doesn’t really have the time or energy to work out most days, she finds little gaps in her schedule to workout in the morning and the weekends.

Although she hates working out, she knows how important it is. So she makes time.

A great coach once told me, “If it’s important, make time for it.”


  1. It’s Not All About You

I didn’t realize how selfish I was until I left Ali at home with a migraine to go work out. Man, did I get an ear full, and rightly so!

Having an “all about me” mindset will ruin your fat loss progress.

When we get stuck in this mindset, sabotaging thoughts pop up:

“I deserve a day off from working out.”

“I don’t want to do deadlifts today.”

“I need to eat.”

Like Tupac said, it’s not about me, it’s “All About You.”


  1. Have Fun!

When things are fun, we look forward to doing them. If your workouts aren’t fun anymore, stop it immediately.

When Ali and I get to work out together, it probably takes me twice as long to get my workout done. Half the time we are laughing, and the other half we are actually being productive and working out. But isn’t laughing productive in the sense that you are bonding and growing your relationship? Don’t think of your workouts as a means to an end, think about the relationships you are building and enjoy the process!

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